This was the place I was born and raised; where nobody had to whisper the “n word” or hesitate to stick some feathers in their hair and paint their skin red as a sign of school spirit.
Growing up in New Hampshire didn’t prevent me from making friends or dating guys who weren’t white.
Unfortunately, even if she is not ready to admit it, her subconscious desire is for him to make the dream come true, and leave his wife.
The worst thing to do is sleep with the married man as once the adultery is official, the dynamic of the relationship drastically changes.
This in turn will make the other woman feel even more humiliated as she thought he didn’t like his wife like that.
If she expresses it, he already has his reasoning – 1) she knew he was married, and 2) he never said he was leaving his wife.
However, filling the void may backfire on him, as the relationship may escalate from occasional lunches during work hours or early dinners disguised as “working late”, to the more intimate texting and instant messages all night long.
This is hook line and sinker for the woman, as she automatically thinks, “oh, he wants to talk to me so badly that he’s risking getting caught!
Sure there are a few people who actually leave their wives when they have met their “soul mate”. Although he gets to the point where he is saying he loves the side chick, he is usually more in love with his kids.
In a loveless marriage with small children, the kids become more of a silver lining and the focus of all the reasons to deal with the unhappiness of no sex and conversation that only revolves around household duties (“did you pay the light bill?
”, and perceives this as being put first (the one thing that women want to feel in a relationship).
By this time, she is more than likely already aware of the fact that he is unhappy in his marriage and the more time she spends with him she makes sure to plea her case as to why he should be with her instead.
The most significant difference among them is that this Rochester belongs to a New England state that is listed in bold when you Google “Least diverse state.” If you flip through my year book from senior year, you will count 3 black students in my class, only one of them being male.