He's "sincere, serious romantic and very intelligent and understanding." He's even, he writes - for the right woman - "willing to relocate."Online dating, the Web's largest trackable source of consumer dollars, drew 0 million last year.
The owners of inmate ad sites, she says, should be taking a step back and asking: "Are we setting these people up to be victims in the future?
"Other victim advocates agree, saying the ads are disrespectful to those who've suffered at these inmates' hands. Not everyone," - the US prison population was 2.1 million last year; more than 95 percent will be released - "but some of the people in there are gonna come out and be loving mothers and daughters or fathers and sons - and maybe husbands and wives.
Don't people without criminal convictions have a hard enough time getting dates?
What would tempt a free woman or man to seek out and correspond with - and, as corrections officers say regularly happens, go on to date and even marry - an inmate? Many psychologists say commitment-phobes pursue such matches.
And he was honest with her when he messed up inside, and she didn't just say, 'Oh, honey, it's OK.' They were like regular couples, with the highs and lows." More commonly, Drake says she'd see an inmate "writing to four or five women, asking for money, stamps, visits, telling them all [that] they are the one."That's what worries former Massachusetts State Rep. The founder of a victim-aid group named for her murdered brother, Ms.
Cuomo believes sex offenders, murderers, and people who've committed assaults should not be allowed to run ads.
Marvin Span has been locked up for three years, his felony case tied up in appeals.
In his online ad, he's draped over a faux-Grecian statue in what looks like the courtyard of his Rhode Island jail.
Others, like relationship adviser Gilda Carle, point out that far more women than men are involved with inmates.
It's the "bad boy syndrome," she says: women attracted to not-so-nice guys out of rebellion, or low self-esteem.
Guys behind bars have a lot of time on their hands: to write long letters, to compose love poetry, to perform a lot of the gallant, romantic rituals that modern courtship has largely lost. It's a rollercoaster ride."And they're not the only ones to whom prison looks romantic.