Here’s a new article which I wrote as a special to Yahoo! And while I never write emails for others, the request makes perfect sense.
If it’s just their dazzling smile or their sparkly blue eyes, that’s fine!
If their profile made you laugh out loud in the middle of Tesco, say it.
But when it comes to acting on that statement, most of them don’t. In fact, I think I’m posting this on JDaters Anonymous.
I could be making a vast generalization, but to an extent, this doesn’t matter.
Remember, that’s why she wrote it – because she wants you to get to know her, not because she wants to be told for the umpteenth time that she’s hot. NOT the thing you like the most, NOT the thing you find most attractive, NOT the thing you have in common. It might be how she doesn’t know how to program her Ti Vo. Yes, you think it’s cool that she also likes Robert De Niro movies and skiing in Vail. The sillier and more over-the-top your email, the funnier it’ll be.
Men who treat women as unique and interesting individuals stand a much greater shot of receiving a response. The most interesting tidbit in her profile is the thing that sounds like it couldn’t have been written by anybody else in the world. Whatever it is, take her quirky tidbit and turn it into your pickup line. The most effective way to catch someone’s attention in an initial email is with fiction. Because the truth, as we’ve established, is boring. But does any of that sound like a good pickup line to you? A good joke doesn’t require an explanation – it’s obviously a joke.
Similarly, if you claim to love your job but the time stamp on your message says you sent it at 9.30 on a Monday morning, your reader might doubt your career ethic.
Stick to neutral hours, like lunchtimes and early evening.
If you despaired of ever meeting a woman who loved football (even if you question her choice of team), say it.