You don’t really want to run into one of your old flames – or one of theirs – and it’s good to go somewhere fresh to you both, free of distractions or associations with other dates.
Forget their sexual past Yes, plenty of us have been around a bit, but don’t let it play on your mind when on a date with a new guy.
If you’re white, don’t say you’re “really into black guys”. You’re objectifying a person with no thought for what else he might have to offer.
Say what you like to do, who you want to be with, and why people should date you. Don’t fetishise This is becoming a bigger issue in the gay dating world.
All this liberation and equality is leading to increased bigotry among us.
Be positive Many guys are very clear in their dating profiles – almost rudely so – about what they don’t want or like.
Not only is this far too prescriptive, you also run the risk of coming across as overly negative.
Having fixed ideas of what you want – which usually boil down to looks and little else – could be standing in your way of meeting some great guys.
It’s time to think outside the box, look past the beards or muscles, and take chances.
Rejecting someone because of their appearance is only natural, but they don’t need to know that’s your reason.
“There was no spark” usually suffices if you can’t think of anything more constructive, as people rarely questions it.
No matter your gender or sexual orientation, dating can seem like a minefield.
Sometimes we meet the wrong people, choose a bad venue or fall head over heels with someone who just wants to be friends.
The idea that men who put out aren’t good enough to take home to meet our mother is nonsense. Sex alone won’t ruin everything, believe me, plenty of other things can go wrong.