She is a fish out of water and she will act like it. Make light of her ineptness and remember she's on a learning curve -- it won't be like this forever.
If she prefers not to go out when her kids are home, or doesn’t like to hire a babysitter on school nights, she’ll tell you. If you’re out and she is paying for a sitter it is really nice if you get the check. But if you explicitly ask these details on the first or second date you will appear reluctant about dating a woman with kids.
If you don’t ask her out — no matter how innocuous or considerate the reason — she will assume you don’t want to see her. Leave the ask to the last minute, she has to scramble to find a sitter and that’s really uncool. This shows interest in one of the most important things in her life. Sounds cliche’, but I always appreciate it when a guy goes on about how much he adores his niece, or spends time with a friend’s baby. This isn’t necessary, and especially after you have been involved for a while you will likely sort out the who-pays-when conundrum. Which you may be – but if you ask too fast, she will know.
She is opening up her life and her whole family’s life to you.
From the outside, we may look the same as our single comrades (with no children,) but the insides of our lives, minds and hearts are vastly different.
I had no clue how to behave or what to expect from another mate, not to mention the men I was connecting with had no experience with a woman with children, posing another layer of complications.
My advice is to be sensitive to her single/dating immaturity.I go out with single dads and childless men alike, and some of the latter admit (while others appear) to be uncertain about the logistics of dating single moms.Don’t assume she’s not free when her kids are home. If you’re interested and want to see her, ask her out. They have a dad, regardless of whether he is in the picture, in the can, or in and out of the psych hospital. Of course you want to know when she is free, if she has the kids all the time and whether the dad is involved.It may appear effortless, but effortless actually takes more effort.Respect that it’s a big deal when she introduces you to her kids.She's only known the security of married life -- all in and completely devoted.