When watching a TV show, for example, you can say something along the lines of, "Yes that boy has really changed over the past year. That's normal for teenagers, but if he can't treat his girlfriend with respect during this time, she's better off without him."Ask open-ended questions that initiate further discussion, rather than close-ended questions that require only "yes" or "no" answers.
Examples include, "What do you think about how your friend Dylan treats his girlfriend?
Sometimes your dislike for your daughter's boyfriend goes beyond normal parental protectiveness; you really have a strong feeling that the guy she's chosen is insincere, inconsiderate or potentially violent. As of 2006, 61 percent of teens had dated someone who embarrassed them or negatively affected their self-esteem and 15 percent reported being involved with a physically abusive partner, according to Teen Research Unlimited. Wrong probably won't last, you can help her avoid a bad experience by helping her end a disastrous relationship sooner rather than later.
Use specific facts, such as "a boy who was aggressive with his old girlfriend is more likely to be aggressive with you." "I notice he's isolating you, that's a sign of a controlling boyfriend." Listen as much as you speak, keeping the dialogue open.
Discuss clear dating rules with your daughter including areas such as curfew, appropriate age of dating partners, no violence, no disrespectful language, no use of alcohol or drugs.
She needs to tire or grow out of her boyfriend on her own.
Our other friend suggested Jess make sure her daughter does not get pregnant.
Jess and her husband have never been fond of this boy who they describe as lazy and a loser.
They were hoping their smart, beautiful daughter would find a new boyfriend when she was away at college last year, but that didn’t happen.I have a 16 year old daughter and I've caught her a few times doing things like smoking, drinking, cursing etc.The first few times I grounded her after having a serious conversation with my husband and with her, but I saw her smoking again recently even after I talked to her and she said she was sorry and she would never do it again. I understand why you are concerned about your daughter.They plan on telling her she is too good for him, she’s wasting her time and he’s a loser.Her question for me was when should this conversation take place.Being consistent helps you gain respect and integrity in your daughter's eyes and makes it more likely that she'll listen to your advice about her dating choices. While both you and your daughter have a right to express their opinions, you are the parent and should maintain parental control by consistently enforcing reasonable parental rules, even though your daughter might disagree.