Nothing makes breaking up seem scarier than feeling completely isolated.
I was afraid of losing him because I was afraid I would never love anyone as much as I loved him. After the hurt of breaking up, Jessica was pleased to feel an enormous sense of relief. “Now, I’m with a guy who isn’t perfect, but who’s the perfect guy for me.” 5. For Erin, lessons learned enabled her to break off another not-quite-right relationship a lot sooner.
And staying in a common-law relationship with someone for nine months longer than I should have broke me.” “The fear of breaking up with someone comes from the assumption that it’s better to be with someone than no one,” says Lombardo. Lombardo recommends pursuing the things you love and focusing on your goals. And the difference, she says, was fewer hurt feelings all around.
Just know that as long as YOU are ok with the decision, it’s ok if your partner is not.
If you’re thinking of ending your relationship, consider these tips: Read more about breaking up safely here.
They may try to control you through guilt trips, threats or insults.
It may be very difficult to have a peaceful or mutual breakup with an abusive partner.
And it can also affect you spiritually, even if you’re not religious, if you’re compromising your values and your true belief system.” Erin Thompson, a Toronto playwright, was seriously stressed by a man she dated almost a decade ago.
They eventually moved in together, but her boyfriend still couldn’t make real room in his life for her.
The fear and guilt ate away at her for over a year.