However in this modern and evolving society, women are leaning more towards having careers than wanting to sit at home all day.
The average number of children per family is one in Japan.
Be prepared to be disabused, for whatever images you have conjured in your mind about finding love in Japan are certain to be skewed and not realistic, that is unless you’ve lived in the country before and you know the score.
This isn’t to say that you as a foreigner can’t find love in Japan, because some people do indeed have success, but it does mean that you need to ‘clear your mind’ and realize that there is much that is different and much to learn on the subject of love in Japan.
How on Earth could you possibly think a relationship can grow, let along stay stable if both parties are not able to communicate? That’s around 100,000 people out of the 120,000,000 population, and you can bet a good deal of that .1% are not even Japanese.
And we don’t mean typing messages in Google Translator, we mean actual relaying of feelings and concepts. So let’s say you’ve already given up learning Japanese and will only settle for an English-speaking partner. With the above list in mind it may appear daunting to find your English-speaking Japanese partner, however you should turn your frown upside down, because since the advent of the Internet you can search out actual groups in cities (again, it must be a large city) that exist solely for the purpose of meeting foreigners. A quick search on Google or Facebook of ‘tokyo foreigner meetup’ will reveal several groups.
This is something you should discuss before you tie the not, obviously.
And the same goes for men, many women will expect that once they are married that they will just stay at home all day.
Therefore, for all foreigners, men and women, who seek to find love (and by that we don’t mean one night stands, as you don’t need vocular skills in order to pull off that achievement) you will either have to learn Japanese or you’ll have to find a partner who is capable of speaking good English, and those are few and far between. You can also search for ‘language exchange’ or ‘conversation exchange’ to find groups of foreigners and Japanese who meet together to chat and work on their language skills. Now you’ve not only selected out people who probably speak some level of English, but people who also are interested in foreigners!
Pat yourself on the back for killing two birds with one stone.
To the Japanese, shaving the ‘hair down there’ is considered very uncool, and has the connotation of being like a child.
Rule (both): Don’t count on the phrase ‘I love you’ to have the same weight that it does in the West. Instead you’ll have to come up with something more lengthy and creative to describe your feelings, such as: “I want to be with you for the rest of my life, etc etc etc” Rule (both): Splitting the bill on a date is perfectly acceptable in Japan.
Relationships like these rarely last long, and are usually short lived.