They're going to understand a submissive or slave, especially one new to the Lifestyle is going to be hesitant, shy and uncertain.
It's not going to happen, that's not reality.
Next, as you begin to explore these various chat room environments, and yes, there are some very good and legitimate chat rooms and web sites out there, make sure you realize there are many many more "bad ones". Don't just assume because someone places a label on it, it is automatically going to be just what you envision it to be.
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When in reality, few if any in the environment have any actual participation or involvement in a Dominant submissive or Power Exchange relationship.
To most that are there, it's an opportunity for "role play", it's a "game" where no one will get hurt.
Just as they'll know that it may take time to establish the trust needed to establish a rapport with anyone, Dominant or submissive.
Last, but certainly not least learn to trust your instincts a bit.
The first and most obvious, but hardest to do, slow down!